:: Top 5 Ways to Deal With An Uninvited Wedding Guest ::
“Who is that person?”
“Did you invite her (or him) (or them)?”
“No! Did you?”
It happens. Party harty people sometimes crash weddings for free eats and booze and fun. Or someone brings a “surprise” plus one. Or someone invites him/herself that you didn’t intend to invite… But what do you do about it? And how do you handle it gracefully? Here are MRSter’s top five tips for dealing with an uninvited guest.
1 :: Stranger :: This one is relatively easy to handle. You don’t know this person or persons. Ask your wedding planner, venue manager, or member of your wedding party to discretely walk this person to the door.
2 :: Surprise Plus One :: An invited guest may assume it’s okay to bring a friend to your wedding, even though your invitation/RSVP did not say so. In this case, the best thing to do is to squeeze in another chair. There is simply no other gracious way to handle it.
3 :: Surprise Attendee :: Maybe you work with someone for example, who knows all about your wedding; knows when and where it will take place and just figures on showing up. Maybe this person just doesn’t understand that a person needs an invitation in order to go to a wedding. (Duh.) If the subject comes up before the wedding day, you will have the opportunity to explain that you you have a limited guest list. Otherwise here again, there is no other way to gracefully handle the situation except by squeezing in another chair.
4 :: Surprise Child :: Your cousin arrives with her 3 year old in tow even though the invitation stated “adults only.” Your cousin is probably embarrassed anyway when she notices that there are no other children present. As long as the child is well-behaved, say nothing. But if the kid is a terror, assign someone to discreetly intercede. The parent may need to be asked to leave with the child or at least take the disruptive child out of range of the festivities until s/he gets under control.
5 :: Vendor :: You notice that the DJ or photographers or band members on break are noshing or helping themselves to your hosted bar. Unless you gave them permission to do so ahead of time, this is unprofessional behavior. Ask your wedding planner, venue manager, or member of your wedding party to tell them the food and drink are for invited guests only. It’s probably not a good idea for the wedding professional to be drinking at your event anyway. They are, after all, working.
The key word for handling uninvited guests is discretion. If any of these scenarios happen at your wedding, ask others to handle it… With discretion, of course. It’s your job to enjoy your special day!